The healing and freedom in grief

I love to work with families. It is one of my greatest loves in this life, along with being a mother to my three beloveds myself.

I also have a fourth beloved, but he is not one I talk of much, to just anyone, although I’d like to speak of him here for healing purposes.

Part of healing the body is grieving. I have found that grieving is essential to healing. That grieving is the only way to heal many things.

The twin of grieving is celebrating. & celebrating is just as essential. & they hold hands eternally, this grieving & this celebrating. And they are continual processes, always coming when they come. And need to come.

I birthed a little one when I was very young. He was 6.5 months along in my belly when he died. He had fatal brain abnormalities that weren’t discovered until I was already far into my pregnancy. His birth was very painful & long, & I left the hospital with a body longing for its baby. He was one of my deepest loves & the loss of his presence in my life was one of the heaviest griefs I have ever felt.

Loving my baby so preciously & having to surrender his presence & body taught me so many things, but one of them was the healing purity of grief. How deeply I loved that tiny person. & so deeply did I grieve because I loved him that much. & how exquisite that I got to experience something so preciously beautiful that it called this grief from me.

When I learned how to grieve as much as needed, as often as needed, about anything that stirred up grief, I found myself authentically healing more easily & thoroughly, in all my most needed ways, even physically.

It took me years after my first little beloved’s passing to the heaven world to fully find the gift & freedom in grief, but I am here now & it has changed my whole life & sense of who I am to grieve.

I know that the people of our world need to grieve. Our bodies & minds are in dis-ease for many reasons but one of the strongest of them is stress. And so much of our stress is from pent-up grief. I am telling you, if you listen to your stress long enough, with a true open heart & ear, you will find a mountain of suppressed grief.

But this mountain has a gold center of the purest nectar. The purest truth. & the ability to set you free with a capacity to love that much more.

Bless you, my first baby. I will see you at Heaven’s gate.

* Picture is of a bear I received from the hospital I birthed at, in place of my baby. I still have this bear over ten years later & give it hugs & cry when I need to.