There's a safe place inside you

Why do I focus so much on the emotional experience of being human when I’m a detoxification specialist?

Because :: we are soft, imprintable creatures whose physicality is highly dependent upon our nervous system & the emotions that effect it. This begins in the womb & continues until our body’s return to the earth. If we do not focus on & get curious with the imprints in our beliefs & thinking, & the resulting feelings that come out of that, & how we were even formed that way to begin with, we will never truly unwind into a state of healing.

What I have found is that some of the deepest, most painful, consuming, & confusing emotional material we carry is pre-verbal, meaning it formed & settled into our beings before we could talk or make any sense of it. We were too little. And because so much of our survival as tiny people was linked to acceptance & belonging within the family we were born into (whether that was a healthy family or not), the hardships we experienced at that time felt like potential death. Deep down, the message was clear that if we didn’t be or do as our parents told us, we would get rejected & that meant our very existence was at risk. That is how deeply a child depends on their family for survival, for they have no capacity at that age to care for themselves.

This is why when we sit with our most painful feelings & beliefs, it often feels like we’re going to die within it. The pain is that strong. This is our inner little one who was trying to survive ~ who was aware at some deep, subconscious level that our survival depended on whether we “fit” in our family or not.

Of course, there are other traumas that can take place at any age that can have a similar or the same kind of feel, but this pre-verbal imprint is so important to meet with. It needs us to give it all that we can to feel safe. It needs us to speak to it how it needed its caregivers to speak to it. It needs us to be that loving, warm, wise, strong guide that we may not have gotten as little ones. It is calling for us to be the person {{now}} that it always needed then. So communication with this pre-verbal part of us is very important in order for us to discover what it needs from us so we can begin to re-imprint ourselves into healthier, safer patterns. Nine times out of ten, the answer will be simple, & it will beyond words or ideas or processing: {{safety}}.

{Side note ~ all parents are going to fall short. We are all imperfect & this is the human design ~ to always be growing, learning & evolving. But some fall short much more than others & are downright abusive, so there are many unique facets of this work for each person & their personal lineage. No two are alike & there is no one-size-fits-all answer for healing for everyone. However, creating safety with ourselves & for this particular pre-verbal aspect can be a beautiful, powerful, simple, & effective place to begin}.

How does all of this emotional work weave into the body's state of health? Trauma & stress physically change the brain, which changes how our brain communicates with our bodies & therefore how well they function, so unprocessed trauma & stress are key factors in the formation of dis-ease in the body. That’s why it is necessary to work on the wholeness of our beings, not just our physical bodies. It is all woven together & continually being woven together by God’s fingers in every moment.

So when I work with people, we meet with their inner little one who cannot yet speak or make sense, because this is usually where so much love, compassion, & safety is needed.

As adults, we are being called to become safe homes for ourselves. And as we do that, we can then also be safe homes for others.

This is how we can begin to heal within ourselves and as a human family, mentally, emotionally, & physically.

~{Painting by me}~